I started this post in a radically different way, then I deleted everything (simply because I caught myself again trying to sound in a way that would please everbody’s taste) and I am starting over. Instead of explaining what we do and why, I’ll just say:
Although we’re all connected, we’re all separate individuals with free will. I can’t arrange my life according to everyone’s expectations. After all they contradict and trying to please somebody, will automatically displease somebody else. Every situation is different, so I don’t want any roles ascribed, any moulds to follow. If I do wrong, it’s I who is going to pay. Everyone should do the thing he or she believes to be right. Other’s have the right to have their expectations, I have the right not to please those expectations – it’s their own business. We can’t spare other people all the frustration just because they had different vision of things. Moreover, it doesn’t help them grow up because it puts them in a bubble where everything seems to happen the way they want it to happen.
With this I am not trying to defend inconsiderate and selfish people but to throw away the tiresome burden of always taking into consideration irrelevant things that deprive you of your own life.
ddodo said,
April 3, 2007 at 9:40 am
The people with the expectations influence you.At least,they are observers,so no matter whether you’ll show any consideration with them,they influence you..the question for me is can this influence be positive?Or it is quite negative..
ddodo said,
April 20, 2007 at 9:20 pm
I insist to share his thoughts bout expectations!If you accept the expectations of others, especially negative ones, then you never will change the outcome.
You have to expect things of yourself before you can do them.
Michael Jordan (read God)